Divorce is tough. I have been divorced and would never want to go through it again. But the fact is – Marriages end.
You can decide divorce is awful and you will all suffer terribly, there will be gut wrenching heartbreak and oh God , the children ……..
Or – you can stand in a more peaceful, powerful perspective
Families change form.
It is not what you expected or hoped for, and yes change is difficult and challenging. It is sad when things do not go according to plan. But the heart can be a fickle thing when blended with the myriad of emotions and experiences that affect us all everyday.
“I love him, I am just no longer in love with him, somehow “
“She is a wonderful mother, we just can’t connect anymore when it is just the two of us.”
Many couples fall out of love. We don’t always know why.
Maybe you were not compatible. Maybe, through the years you grew to experience life totally differently, to the point where you have little in common. Maybe your two glorious lives were supposed to come together just to create these fabulous children! Who knows? Much of life is a mystery.
Commit to counseling if you both are willing, read Harville Hendricks insightful book ‘Getting the Love You Want’ . Try a relationship workshop as they can often assist in getting a willing couple back on the same track, as well as help us see ourselves differently. Read Manuel Ruiz’s ‘Mastery of Love’ his simple clear writing style and message are inspiring.
But if it does not work. And you believe it cannot work – divorce does not need to be a dirty word or an experience that needs to rip you, your family, your finances or your future into a million little pieces. Face your truth.
Families change form
You can powerfully choose your own your truth, and peacefully move into a new concept of how your family can operate.
My family is proof of that.
I’ve been there, I can help.
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