Shellshocked. Blindsided. Rug out. Can’t breathe…
Numb, is not a feeling. Betrayal (or worse, self betrayal) may have you feeling tiny and small. Shame may have you numbing yourself with all kinds of bad stuff just trying to keep difficult feelings at bay. You may have lost or fear you are loosing your job, your position or a person you so loved you can barely breathe — let alone face how horrible it feels.
Do you feel like the feelings that help you process and facilitate your life have abandoned you? Or are you pushing away the feelings you are having out of guilt, shame or fear?
Understand this
1. Feelings just are. You can’t choose how you feel, feeling and sensations just come; they are not good or bad.
2. Feeling hate or fury does not make you a terrible person, anymore than feeling gratitude and love makes you a good person.
3. Feelings (pretty or not) show you how you are thinking these days. What’s resonating with you and what just isn’t! Who is pissing you off and who you want to be with. Feelings ALL OF THEM are a crucial part of your navigation system, they help you interpret your current life circumstance and it’s meaning. Having access to ALL of them is crucial.
4. Numb is not a feeling. When life blindsides you or when life and relationship situations just plain wear you down, numbing the pain can often become an invisible process. Feelings just seem too tough – running from them or numbing with wine or pills can feel like a relief.
Hear me, every problem you have is a question a quality in you trying to emerge.
Start small.
Stop seeking answers outside of you. Focus inside your self.
Ask yourself. What feels so bad? What am I avoiding?
Your life has chosen a new path. Change is in the offing – a seed has been planted, amid all this chaos, numbness and sadness.
You are there. You’ll come back. You matter.
It’s going to be okay.
Life changes form.